Saturday, 2 April 2016

How to deal with love failures..

The suicide rate in India has been increasing. Almost every year we see exam, depression, love failure related suicides.

Recently television actress Pratyusha Banerjee known for her acting and tv serial Balika Vadhu's beloved Anandi committed suicide. We still do not know if it is a suicide or a murder but it is hard to believe that a good actor at the age of 24 is no more. Jiah Khan's suicide was yet another disturbing news.

A person's suicide often takes the people it leaves behind by surprise and shock. In general,people try to kill themselves for few reasons such as they are depressed, they are crying out for help and do not know how to get it, whom to ask, they have made a mistake or guilty about something.

The wounds suicide leaves in the lives of those left behind by it are often deep and long lasting.

Most of our failures are nothing more than a form of rejection and knowing how to deal with rejection will help to lessen pain and come back to normal state.
Love failure can be seen as a form of being rejected. I have seen many of my friends falling in this trap. Getting attracted to the opposite gender is not love but teenagers don't understand this.
When you realize that you are being rejected, it is too late. You don't feel like talking to your friends. You start hating everything. You fail to understand that you had loved or desired someone who was not passionate about you as you were

The common symptoms are negative thoughts,unable to get good sleep, not able to work and not able to concentrate on studies or for that matter disliking everything that you do. I have seen many of my friends going through this so I can say that it is really disturbing and painful to see someone suffer from depression which is a mental condition. The intensity of all these will gradually fade with time but family and friends have a major role to help the person overcome.

If you are going through this then try telling yourself that all this is just temporary and you deserve a better life partner.
Engage yourself in physical activities like gym, sports or dance.
Party hard with your friends but that does not mean you need to take help of alcohol.
The best way is to avoid blaming yourself or others for the wrong things happening in your life.
Try to focus on good and do not analyse your past.
Learn a new skill or something that is challenging.
Travel to places if possible and meet new people.
Give yourself enough time and don't start a new relationship when you still have many unforgotten memories and negative feelings ruling your mind.

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