When someone we love is gone, we find that even after their death their birthday still belongs to them.
No matter what, living a good and long life does not diminish the pain of the loss.
Mother's day is a day dedicated to all mother's to respect her motherhood and appreciate her unconditional love and sacrifice.
All of us are fortunate enough to have atleast one woman in our life who is Maa Jaisi ( mother like) other than our own mother and that woman could be our mother in law, wife, sister ,sister in law, friend, girlfriend, aunt, grandmother, daughter, daughter in law , teacher etc.
My Mom always says never miss a chance to thank the one who has shown love by helping you in every possible way.
On this Mother's day, I take the opportunity to thank all those beautiful woman who have played such an important role in my life and because of them I am the person that I am today.
Now to all those whom I refer to as 'maa jaisi' are the ones I share my secrets , difficulties, fears, concerns, happiness, achievements, accomplishments and my best moment's.
Thank you for sharing your life experiences, perspectives and it's always good to hear to your advices and for showing great happiness just like a Mom on my little triumphs.
Take good care of yourself because you are special to me and to many other people around you.
The 2nd PUC chemistry paper of Karnataka state board got leaked and there was another exam conducted on 31st March. The paper got leaked again and now they say that the exam will be conducted once again in the month of April.
Even in the past students have faced this and it is really frustrating to write re exams.
Few people say that the entire PUC board is under the control of tuition mafia. I am sure this is the case with different states as well. For those who do not know pre university course is abbreviated as PUC and refers to the 11th and 12th standard studies in Karnataka.
Every student joins up for a tuition class after college hours.The tuition courses are costly which is legally banned. Teachers do not teach anything in colleges and ask students to join their classes. The students are made to believe that if he/ she is not taking tuitions then they will score less.
Another new scheme is to open colleges and say no need of extra tuition classes and college classes are sufficient to score good marks. But then the fees are high which is a burden for the middle class parent's.
Sometimes the benefit of all this is that students also get a leaked paper for the money that they pay.
The entire education system is based on marks. I am not really sure how we can totally remove this but I don't understand why everything is based only on marks. If you don't score well in PUC (science stream) you will not get a good medical or an engineering seat in a good college. If you do not get admitted to a good engineering college you will not be able to attend on campus drives or get placed in a good company. If you don't get placed in a good company your package will be less or you may remain jobless if your marks are less.
Good companies ask for all academic certificates so study well and score good marks right from 1st standard so that you will be able to do well in all board exams. This is the mindset of the people in India.
When the private companies recruit they have their own examination systems to evaluate the candidate.
In one of the article that I read recently the writer says that all exams should be conducted online. I really appreciate this idea as the system is already there for exams such as GRE, CAT etc and is doing well.
Student should be allowed to take exams online where in the question paper is assembled randomly from question Bank and will be different for each student.
Also the exam date should be given to the students to choose from the selected dates as decided by the board. If a student is sick or has any personal emergency at home he/she can enroll for the exam on some other day. This would certainly help students to be relaxed.
The student should be given every right to get assessed when he/she is ready. There should be an attempt made to remove stress related to exams. Marks of a particular exam should not be considered as a final result. That is to say if a student performs bad for the first time that does not mean he/she cannot perform well for the second time. I know there will be set of students who will take disadvantages of this system but at least it will help the deserving students.
Intense pressure on students in schools and colleges can backfire leading to stress.
I hope we see changes in the education system in the coming years in India.
Do write back to me with suggestions.
The suicide rate in India has been increasing. Almost every year we see exam, depression, love failure related suicides.
Recently television actress Pratyusha Banerjee known for her acting and tv serial Balika Vadhu's beloved Anandi committed suicide. We still do not know if it is a suicide or a murder but it is hard to believe that a good actor at the age of 24 is no more. Jiah Khan's suicide was yet another disturbing news.
A person's suicide often takes the people it leaves behind by surprise and shock. In general,people try to kill themselves for few reasons such as they are depressed, they are crying out for help and do not know how to get it, whom to ask, they have made a mistake or guilty about something.
The wounds suicide leaves in the lives of those left behind by it are often deep and long lasting.
Most of our failures are nothing more than a form of rejection and knowing how to deal with rejection will help to lessen pain and come back to normal state.
Love failure can be seen as a form of being rejected. I have seen many of my friends falling in this trap. Getting attracted to the opposite gender is not love but teenagers don't understand this.
When you realize that you are being rejected, it is too late. You don't feel like talking to your friends. You start hating everything. You fail to understand that you had loved or desired someone who was not passionate about you as you were
The common symptoms are negative thoughts,unable to get good sleep, not able to work and not able to concentrate on studies or for that matter disliking everything that you do. I have seen many of my friends going through this so I can say that it is really disturbing and painful to see someone suffer from depression which is a mental condition. The intensity of all these will gradually fade with time but family and friends have a major role to help the person overcome.
If you are going through this then try telling yourself that all this is just temporary and you deserve a better life partner.
Engage yourself in physical activities like gym, sports or dance.
Party hard with your friends but that does not mean you need to take help of alcohol.
The best way is to avoid blaming yourself or others for the wrong things happening in your life.
Try to focus on good and do not analyse your past.
Learn a new skill or something that is challenging.
Travel to places if possible and meet new people.
Give yourself enough time and don't start a new relationship when you still have many unforgotten memories and negative feelings ruling your mind.